It is almost impossible to assume that you will be able to spend up to 40 hours a week with your coworkers without running into any bumps in the road. As a reminder, it is important to remember that not all issues need to be confronted. Save your time and energy for the real heavy hitters and let the little stuff go. When we find that looking past the issue isn’t possible, many times the best way to solve brewing long-term conflicts is to confront the issue with your colleague before the situation gets out of control.
Take a Breath
Before assuming the worst and jumping head first into a vat full of future problems, assume that will always be another (better) side of the story. Take a walk or give it a few days. Give your colleague the benefit of the doubt and try to see the issue in a different light. Whatever you do, do not send a wordy email. This could ignite further issues down the line and create some unnecessary tension in the office.
Resist Venting to Others
Many times, background conversations creates resentment which can greatly impact your quality of work in close atmospheres. Do what you can to avoid talking about the issue with other employees and search for an explanation directly from the source.
Sit down and Have a Conversation
We are all busy and sometimes we have the habit to rush through conversations in passing. It is imperative for you both to block off a set time to meet in a natural environment to have your important conversation. This way, you are able to spell out the situation specifically and explain how it made you feel for the other person to hear with out being distracted.
Pick Your Battles
It’s not necessary to involve upper management in all your issues. If you are finding difficulty in coming to a resolution, then it may be time to involve your director or someone that can help. State your case and attempts to resolve the issue and how it is impacting your professional relationship in a respectful manner. Criticizing and talking poorly about your coworker will only portray you in a bad light.